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With the Hadith - The First Etiquette of Enjoining Good and Forbidding Evil - Gentleness
With the Hadith - The First Etiquette of Enjoining Good and Forbidding Evil - Gentleness

Narrated Aisha: A group of Jews asked permission to enter upon the Messenger of God, may God bless him and grant him peace, and they said: Death be upon you. Aisha said: Rather, death and curse be upon you. The Messenger of God, may God bless him and grant him peace, said: "O Aisha, God loves gentleness in all matters."

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August 07, 2025

With the Hadith - The First Etiquette of Enjoining Good and Forbidding Evil - Gentleness

With the Hadith

The First Etiquette of Enjoining Good and Forbidding Evil – Gentleness

We greet you all, dear listeners, everywhere, in a new episode of your program "With the Hadith," and we begin with the best greeting: peace, mercy, and blessings of God be upon you.

Narrated Aisha: A group of Jews asked permission to enter upon the Messenger of God, may God bless him and grant him peace, and they said: Death be upon you. Aisha said: Rather, death and curse be upon you. The Messenger of God, may God bless him and grant him peace, said: "O Aisha, God loves gentleness in all matters." She said: Did you not hear what they said? He said: "I said: And upon you." Narrated by Muslim. And in another narration: "O Aisha, God is gentle and loves gentleness. And He gives for gentleness what He does not give for violence. And what He does not give for anything else." And in another narration: "Indeed, gentleness is not in anything but it adorns it, and it is not taken away from anything but it disgraces it."

Dear listeners,

Gentleness is kindness in speech and leniency in dealing. Whoever enjoins good and forbids evil must be gentle in his speech, and lenient in it, and not be obscene, but rather choose polite words that fall in the hearts in a good way, for good words are the key to hearts. If that does not work, then it is permissible for him to move to severity, intimidation, and frightening.

Al-Nawawi mentioned a chapter in the book (Al-Adhkar), that it is permissible for the one who enjoins good and forbids evil, and every educator, to say to the one he is addressing in that: Woe to you, and O weak one, and O little regard for yourself, or O oppressor of yourself, and he mentioned in that hadiths, including: the hadith of Adi bin Hatim, which is established in Sahih Muslim: that a man gave a speech in the presence of the Messenger of God, may God bless him and grant him peace, and said: Whoever obeys God and His Messenger, he has been guided, and whoever disobeys them, he has gone astray. The Messenger of God, may God bless him and grant him peace, said: "What a bad speaker you are, say: And whoever disobeys God and His Messenger." And he narrated in it the hadith of Jabir bin Abdullah: that a slave of Hatib came complaining about Hatib, and said: O Messenger of God, Hatib will enter Hell. The Messenger of God, may God bless him and grant him peace, said: "You have lied, he will not enter it, for he witnessed Badr and Al-Hudaybiyyah." And he mentioned in it his saying, may God bless him and grant him peace, to the owner of the sacrificial camel: "Woe to you, ride it." And his saying, may God bless him and grant him peace, to Dhu al-Khuwaisarah: "Woe to you, who will be just if I am not just."

It is stated in (Al-Awasim wal Qawasim) by Muhammad bin Ibrahim al-Wazir al-Yamani: "Know that deterring and intimidating with harsh words has four conditions: two conditions for permissibility, which are: that the deterred person is not right in his words or actions, and that the deterrent person is not lying in his words, so he should not say to the one who committed something disliked: O disobedient, nor to the one who committed a sin whose magnitude is not known: O evildoer, nor to the owner of corruption (from the Muslims): O infidel, and the like. And two conditions for recommendation, which are: that the speaker thinks that severity is closer to the opponent's acceptance of the truth, or to the clarity of the evidence for him, and that he does that with a correct intention, and does not do it merely for the sake of natural instinct."            

Gentleness is obligatory with parents in particular; because God Almighty says: (Say not to them [so much as], "uff," and do not repel them but speak to them a noble word). Imam Ahmad bin Hanbal said: "If he sees his father doing something he dislikes, he should inform him without violence or abuse, and not be harsh with him in speech, otherwise he should leave him, and the father is not like a stranger. And he said in the narration of Yaqoub bin Yusuf: If his parents are selling wine, he should not eat from their food and leave them. And he said in the narration of Ibrahim bin Hani': If he has parents who have a vineyard from which they squeeze grapes and make wine and give it to him to drink, he should order them and forbid them, and if they do not accept, he should leave them and not stay with them. Abu Bakr mentioned it in Zad al-Musafir." And on the authority of Abdullah bin Amr bin Al-Aas, that the Messenger of God, may God bless him and grant him peace, said: "Among the major sins is a man cursing his parents. They said: O Messenger of God, does a man curse his parents? He said: Yes, he curses a man's father, so he curses his father, and he curses his mother, so he curses his mother."  

So the son enjoins his parents to do good and forbids them from evil with gentleness and leniency, and it is not permissible for him to be harsh with them or to use force with them.

Dear listeners, and until we meet you with another prophetic hadith, we leave you in God's care, and peace, mercy, and blessings of God be upon you.

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When the Prophet, peace be upon him, asked his companions, "Do you know who is bankrupt?" "Do you know" means knowledge and awareness of the inner workings of things. "Do you know" means "Do you really know who is bankrupt?" This confirms the saying of our master Ali, may Allah honor his face: "Wealth and poverty are after the presentation to Allah." When they were asked this question, they answered based on their experiences: "The bankrupt among us is the one who has no dirham or goods." This is the bankrupt in the eyes of the companions of the Messenger of Allah. So he, peace and blessings be upon him, said: No... HE SAID: "INDEED, THE BANKRUPT OF MY NATION IS THE ONE WHO COMES ON THE DAY OF RESURRECTION WITH FASTING, PRAYER, AND CHARITY..."

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We ask Allah to keep us steadfast on the truth, and make us of His righteous servants, and replace our bad deeds with good deeds, and not disgrace us on the Day of Presentation to Him, O Allah, Amen.

Our dear listeners, until we meet you with another prophetic hadith, we entrust you to Allah, whose deposits are never lost. Peace, mercy, and blessings of Allah be upon you.

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This noble Hadith guides us on how to deal with the hypocrites we know. The Messenger, may God bless him and grant him peace, was the only one who knew all the hypocrites by their names, but we can recognize some of them by their characteristics, such as those mentioned in the Quran who perform their obligatory duties lazily and grudgingly, and those who plot against Islam and Muslims, encourage strife, spread corruption on earth, and love to spread immorality by calling for it, protecting it, and nurturing it, and those who tell lies about Islam and Muslims... and others who are characterized by hypocrisy.

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We ask God to protect our nation from such criminals, and to guide us to the straight path and the correct scale by which we measure people's behavior, so that we stay away from those whom God does not love. Amen.

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